One of those young people who feel sad is 18-year-old Juul. She gives her life a five. This year again she had started her studies and before that she moved from Achterhoek to Amsterdam. Her roommate is now gone and she lives alone. His family and friends live in Achterhoek.
She has no work or studies, so she quit. The study was less fun and she found it difficult to take classes online. She feels alone. “Life is boring and hopeless,” Juul says. She tries to plan each day with things like walking and running errands. “But in the afternoon you did all that, and you don’t have much more to do. Then you start to think. Especially at these times, I feel lonely.”
Jurriaan (17) sometimes also feels lonely. That’s because he can’t go to school now, he says, and because he only talks to his friends online now. He does not give his life insufficient, but he sometimes feels sadness:
“That I can’t see them anymore and I can’t do anything anymore. So I really feel locked up, mentally too.” He is happy to still have a side job as a food delivery man. “Then I’m on my bike and I’m thinking: yes, I can go out for a while.” That’s great, Jurriaan says, because he has to stare at his computer screen for the rest of the day. “These online classes tire me out. I’m a little over the top, I really wish we could go back to school.”
Doesn’t seem weak
Fatima of 15 agrees. “Little moments like laughing with your friends in the auditorium … If you don’t have them anymore, you think: these are very beautiful things.” She misses her life before the crown and now gives her life a five, just like Juul. “We have the impression of being alone in a box and it does not open”. Fatima thinks that many young people don’t want to talk about this dark feeling because they want to show that they can do anything. “We don’t want to appear weak.”
From the NOS Stories questionnaire, it can also be concluded that young people are mainly missed by their friends, followed by parties. They still have energy while watching a movie or series, working part-time or taking a walk. According to Juul, the latter is very important to do. “You really have to get out of the house, because in your room you really start to feel bad at some point.”